Resources

Selected References

  • Baldridge, Letitia.
    Letitia Baldridge's More Than Manners: Raising Today's Kids to Have Kind Manners and Good Hearts.
    New York: Rawson Associates. 1997.
  • Caldwell, Mark.
    A Short History of Rudeness: Manners, Morals, and Misbehavior in Modern America.
    New York: Picador USA. 1999.
  • Eberly, Sheryl.
    365 Manners Kids Should Know: Games, Activities, and Other Fun Ways to Help Children Learn Etiquette.
    New York: Three Rivers Press. 2001.
  • Holyoke, Nancy.
    Oops: The Manners Guide for Girls.
    Middleton, Wis.: Pleasant Company Publications. 1997.
  • James, Elizabeth, and Carol Barkin.
    Social Smarts: Manners for Today's Kids.
    New York: Clarion Books. 1996.
  • Mitchell, Mary.
    Dear Ms. Demeanor: The Young Person's Guide to Handling Any Social Situation with Confidence and Grace.
    Chicago: Contemporary Books Inc. 1994.
  • Packer, Alex J.
    How Rude! The Teenagers' Guide to Good Manners, Proper Behavior, and Not Grossing People Out.
    Minneapolis: Free Spirit Publishing Inc. 1997.
  • Wallace, Carol.
    Elbows Off the Table, Napkin in the Lap, No Video Games During Dinner: The Modern Guide to Teaching Children Good Manners.
    New York: St. Martin's Press. 1996.

Manners Matter: Ages 9 to 12

Social Lingo

conversation: a discussion among two or more people

courteous: being considerate of others

empathy: truly understanding and relating to how a person is feeling

etiquette: a system of expected behavior or protocol in a society or community

friend: a companion for whom you have affection

germ: a tiny organism that can cause disease

greeting: a gesture or announcement of recognition when you encounter someone

groom: to make yourself neat, clean, and attractive

healthy: free from sickness

host: a male who gives a party

hostess: a female who gives a party

introduction: an exchange of words that allow one person to know or become acquainted with a stranger

manners: a set of social guidelines you follow to get along with others and to keep from offending people

modesty: being humble about one's talents or performance

netiquette: etiquette for the internet

personal space: the amount of space a person needs between himself /herself and others in order to feel comfortable

polite: being considerate of others

protocol: correct procedures for doing things

rude: vulgar, impolite, or purposely disagreeable

sensitive: responsive to the feeling of others

social: being in the company of others; having to do with society

sportsmanship: being a gracious winner or loser; being polite to opponents

sympathy: being respectful and supportive of a person's painful situation, even if you have never experienced it

thoughtful: thinking about others when you speak and act

utensils: tools for dining

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